I've been in a similar situation before. If we do get married I may have to foot more of the bills. You have to choose what's right for you, but you have to figure it out. You are commenting using your WordPress.
If I were to signal him everytime I thought about him, I'd be on the phone with him almost all of my waking hours. When I acquired a personal testimony of the gospel as a teen, and made my own decisions regarding my faith, I felt very alone. I am married to an amazing man and physician who cried when he told our 6 year old that he had to cancel on her classroom visit for the second time because he got called into work on his day off, again. You're walking into a den of crazy, tbm bishop's daughter, I hate to say it but you should really be contemplative about what you're stepping into. Mormonism has a lay clergy, so everyone serves in the Church. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are. To others making this consideration, I would certainly suggest that you converse with your Father in Heaven about this important choice. There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime.
In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up. For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. Even selfish at times. I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. It made me sad to think that the thing that was most important my life в my faith в was something that I could never fully share with my husband. He says it is harmless and is only fantasy as there is no touching involved. The point made was that a parallel can be drawn between interfaith and interracial marriages.
Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend. It's an issue I just have to live with if I want to be with him, and I do, so I live with it. In some cases you can just simply live together with differing religions. Some days there is so much pain that I can barely type. Every school events, social gathering, especially weekend calls is making me sad. He has no idea now long it actually takes to finish boards and match. Mixed races, however, are NOT tied into opposing beliefs and mixed races don't try to "convert" each other. Marrying a non-Mormon is not something you do it is something that happens. There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member. Most of us were Mormons and one point, many of us were even TBMs.